When children experience intense emotions, their behavior can quickly escalate into tantrums, backtalk, or defiance. As parents, our default response is often reactive: raising our voices or issuing punishments. Restorative practices offer an alternative that defuses tension and builds emotional skills.
The Power of 'Cooling Off' Before Talking
A restorative conversation cannot happen when a child is in a state of high emotional arousal. When a child is screaming or crying, their rational brain is offline. First, help them calm down through deep breathing or a designated 'peace corner.' Once regulated, the restorative work begins.
Four Restorative Questions for Parents
- What happened? (Let them tell their story without interruption).
- What were you feeling when you did that?
- Who was affected, and how did it make them feel?
- What can we do to make this right and restore peace?
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